This article folds in person-to-person interactions, what one individual human being thinks of another. Five years ago, the basics of race and attraction on OkCupid looked like this:. In some ways, no. Unfortunately, daters are not more open-minded than they used to be. Here are the numbers from — — view each graph below to move through time. These numbers reflect different people year-to-year.
If you exclusively fancy white girls, that’s not a ‘preference’, that’s racist
This conversation, with one of my friends who is a white man, happened only a couple of weeks ago, but took me back to an adolescence peppered with similar microaggressions. The medium of porn, and the endemic racism that threads through parts of the industry is a very complicated conversation. Many elements of our romantic and sexual choices are influenced by society. A study by the University of St Andrews found that exposure to online media pushes our attraction closer to stereotypes of masculine and feminine extremes. Whilst we could definitely spend some time unpacking the social and cultural connotations attached to those physical attributes, their histories are so distinct to the history of race, it feels undignified to waste word count even explaining it.
I hoped his next words would describe some persistent attraction to short, loud girls who always had to be right. I wanted his type to be one of the many elements of my personality. Even the obnoxiousness. Anything to avoid the answer that was almost certainly coming. Being ghosted.